I’ve found my theme song for Mars retrograding through Libra. The hard parts anyway, the bits that tear at my Libra Moon and leave me feeling raw. Of course it’s Johnny Cash – who knew more about true love and ruination? …of course it turns out he was born with Venus in Aries, so he knew a little something about fighting for love, which is the conundrum that faces us all now.
This is really part of a longer post I will start writing tomorrow, but in brief, so far what’s coming up for me is my insatiable need for acknowledgement and love. I just want to be liked. What I’m looking at is what happens when that doesn’t happen. I’m choosing to see this retrograde period as an opportunity to give up needing approval from others and generating it myself, independently of external circumstance. What would my life be like if I wasn’t so worried about what other people thought of me? How much stronger would my love be?
How far could I carry you then?
Did I ask too much
More than a lot
You gave me nothing
Now it’s all I got
But we’re not the same
Hurt each other
Then we do it again
Love is a temple
Love a higher law
Love is a temple
Love the higher law
You ask me to enter
But then you make me crawl
And I can’t be holding on
To what you got
When all you got is hurt
You got to do what you should
With each other
But we’re not the same
We get to
Carry each other
Carry each other
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When I was a little girl I used to fantasize about winning an Oscar and all the people I would thank. I don’t act anymore – at least not seriously – and I don’t have that fantasy anymore, but I still like watching the Oscars, it’s just so much fun watching people so full of gratitude fulfill a lifelong dream and want to share it with people.
Not everyone gives a good speech, but every year it seems like there’s at least one person who captures the spirit perfectly. This year it was Lupita Nyong’o, who celebrated her birthday yesterday, giving her a nice fat Jupiter trine to her Pisces Sun currently. Bless her. Bless her for making us all cry by remembering not only her family and friends but the story that got her here and the cost of it.
I know a lot of people who poo poo the Oscars and think it’s a bunch of hooey, and sometimes – ok, a lot of times – they’re right and we do have to endure a lot of eye-rolling before we get someone great and deserving, but I don’t care. I’m glad there’s a moment every year that the country shuts down and gathers around the tv set to celebrate stories and the people that tell them. Stories are important, they help us understand ourselves, help us understand one another. We need them.
And this story, 12 Years A Slave, well, really. This story needs to be told. We need to tell this story, we need to listen to it, we need to take it on and own it. This is our story, and even if it hurts, we need to hear it. So I’m glad for the Oscars and all the dresses and the hoo ha. If it brings more people to this film than I’m just glad. And Hollywood better be writing some more meaty rolls for my girl, Lupita, too! I want her to have a lot more to be grateful for in the coming years.
We could use some more Gratitude Truth in the world. #Piscestrueheart
In that little one room schoolhouse I attended as a child we used to sing songs every morning at the start of the day. This is one of the ones we were taught. I loved it even then, long before I could understand what she was saying, or why she felt that way. Even before I had experience to back it up I recognized the peculiar mix of pain and exultation she captures here. It’s been on my mind all day and wouldn’t you know it? Joni Mitchell is a fellow 12th house traveler, with Saturn and Mars conjunct in Gemini there. I’m off looking at the clouds myself today, but I’ll leave you with Joni to carry the torch.
BOTH SIDES NOW
Bows and flows of angel hair and ice cream castles in the air
and feather canyons everywhere, I’ve looked at clouds that way.
But now they only block the sun, they rain and snow on everyone.
So many things I would have done but clouds got in my way.
I’ve looked at clouds from both sides now,
from up and down, and still somehow
it’s cloud illusions I recall.
I really don’t know clouds at all.
Moons and Junes and ferris wheels, the dizzy dancing way that you feel
as every fairy tale comes real; I’ve looked at love that way.
But now it’s just another show. You leave ‘em laughing when you go
and if you care, don’t let them know, don’t give yourself away.
I’ve looked at love from both sides now,
from give and take, and still somehow
it’s love’s illusions that I recall.
I really don’t know love at all.
Tears and fears and feeling proud, to say “I love you” right out loud,
dreams and schemes and circus crowds, I’ve looked at life that way.
But now old friends are acting strange, they shake their heads, they say
Something’s lost but something’s gained in living every day.
I’ve looked at life from both sides now,
from win and lose, and still somehow
it’s life’s illusions I recall.
I really don’t know life at all.
I’ve been looking for Molly Schuyler’s birth date for full on 30 minutes now. You wouldn’t believe the things I’ve seen her devour since I started. It’s crazy incredible. She ate the steak above in 3 point something minutes. Oh man the idea of it just makes me feel queasy. Seriously, WHY. This just can’t be a good idea. And yet it is oddly exciting (maybe this Paleo diet I’m on is beginning to wear thin…)
I can’t find her birth date, but it looks like she turned 34 sometime between September 17 of last year and January 3 of this one so she was likely born between 9/79 and 1/80. The interesting thing is that Jupiter and Saturn were both transiting through Virgo from October on, with Jupiter going retrograde at the end of December. This is notable because Saturn is known for causing skinniness (everyone is impressed with Schuyler’s atypical competitive eater’s physique – she’s SKINNY) whilst Jupiter is known for his appetite and largesse. Virgo is often associated with diet and health buffs.
I’m fiercely curious as to what possible combination with her ascendent or personal planets Saturn and Jupiter could be making. She’s expressing the qualities of both planets so extremely, it’s really funny. Even in her attitude which is both ebullient and enthusiastic as she begins and finishes (Jupiter) and cool as a cucumber and all serious face when she’s working (Saturn).
Ah what a wonderful world.
Source: Dlisted Hot Slut of the Day, natch…
I wish Claire Danes wasn’t annoyed about the her cry face making it to its own tumblr page. It’s so freakin’ awesome. I love it. Of course I had to look up her chart to see if it reflected such sudden outbursts of waterworks springing from her eyes. Guess what? She’s got a grand trine in water including Uranus in Scorpio. Get it? Uranus = sudden, water equals… well, WATER. Well played, planets, well played.
I’m in one of my overwhelming – to the point of being crippling – 12th house hermit periods. I wish I could say I’ve been writing up a storm or at the very least reading a pile of novels, but my spare time has been utterly taken over by one action movie after another followed by a Veronica Mars marathon.
It doesn’t escape my attention that everything I’m watching so passively is the opposite of passive. It’s the ultimate vicarious thrill. My latest passion, Veronica Mars, even has Mars in the title!! I can’t tell if I’m sublimating physical activity or anger, (Mars behaviors) all I can say is it is incredibly satisfying to watch Veronica girl detective her way out of various scrapes surrounded by an awesome supporting male cast who put the support into supporting. No wonder this show has the rabid following it does, if it didn’t sound like too much effort and I weren’t so committed to lying prone in my girl cave for the duration I could probably muster up some foaming at the mouth action over it too.
I honestly cannot understand how this show escaped my attention before. I watched an episode out of sequence and didn’t get it, but it’s one of those you really have to watch from the beginning. Sigh. All those wasted years of not being on the inside. Had I known you can bet I would have pledged at least five dolla to their infamous Kickstarter campaign.
I just looked up Kristen Bell’s birth data, and apparently we don’t have the time of birth, but a.) I was heartened to realize she’s from Detroit (strengthening my theory about the connection between Detroiters and sisu) and amused to discover that b.) she was born with Mars at 4 degrees Libra, which any astrologer can tell you means she is about to go through a Mars return (Mars is about to transit Libra and when a planet returns to the same place it occupied when you were born it’s called a “return”).
This is amusing because the Veronica Mars movie will be released in March of next year and, since Mars is going to retrograde in Libra, her Mars return will still be active when Veronica Mars returns. Get it? See what I did there?
Well, not me, obviously, but isn’t the world wonderful and strange and full of pointless poignant connections? I just love a good astrological pun.
Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’ve got to get back to the show and find out why everyone was so pissed that it ended so abruptly. (I’m SO relieved I’ve only got a few months till it’s resolved instead of the years that most of the fans did!!)
Marilyn who watches from the wall
Today Venus is at 8 degrees Capricorn, coming up on a conjunction to Pluto and squaring Uranus at 9 degrees tomorrow. This is a week to be paying more than your normal attention to what makes the world go ’round, to put it mildly. (Hint: LOVE! It’s LOVE!! Love makes the world go ’round!!)
In Capricorn Venus is ruled by Saturn, which is not normally considered super awesome fun times. Saturn likes rules and discipline and order and Venus works best without conditions. As Rob Hand points out, you don’t want someone to tell you they’ll love you IF you do X or Y. We want love unconditionally no matter what. Which is why Venus in Capricorn or Aquarius or Venus making aspects to Saturn isn’t generally considered a fortunate placement. It’s not bad, exactly, but like all things Saturn related, it takes some effort to make it work.
However, that work can pay off in dividends, no joke. If the bad news about Venus and Saturn is that Venus needs discipline in order to work than the good news is that she can be disciplined. Very disciplined indeed.
In Gentlemen Prefer Blondes, Marilyn Monroe plays a girl who puts the gold into heart of gold by playing a gold digger named Lorelei. There’s a wonderful scene towards the end of the film where Lorelei is accused of heartlessness by her fiance’s father. It’s a classic scene, very funny, and the way Lorelei puts her future father-in-law in place perfectly illustrates an effective, if materially driven, Saturnine Venus. (Fun fact: Anita Loos, who wrote the book the film is based on was born with Venus in Taurus squared by Saturn in Leo.)
Mr. Esmond Sr.
Have you got the nerve to stand there and expect me to believe that you don’t want to marry my son for his money?
Mr. Esmond Sr.
Then what do you want to marry him for?
I want to marry him for your money!
So the first important takeaway from this dialogue relative to Venus with Saturn is that: a.) Saturn is dry. It can’t help itself, it makes things funny. This helps more than you would ever believe, because laughing over a broken heart is crucial to getting over one. But it doesn’t end there, because Lorelei gains Mr. Esmond Sr.’s respect by pointing out the essential hypocrisy in the way women are judged for marrying for money while men are not judged for marrying younger women.
Mr. Esmond Sr.
Well, at least we’re getting down to brass tax. You admit that all you’re after is money?
No, I don’t. Aren’t you funny? Don’t you know that a man being rich is like a girl being pretty? You might not marry a girl just because she’s pretty, but my goodness, doesn’t it help? And if you had a daughter, wouldn’t you rather she didn’t marry a poor man?
Mr. Esmond Sr.
You’d want her to have the most wonderful things in the world and to be very happy. So why is it wrong for me to want those things?
So here’s the second takeaway about Saturn and Venus: b.) Saturn has some very good points where Venus is concerned. A Saturnine Venus lives in the “real world,” the world where love and beauty have value as commodities, and we shouldn’t be afraid to use them as such but we must also never be in any illusion about what we’re doing or how far we can take it.
After all, a saturnine Venus knows that surface beauty doesn’t last (“men grow cold as girls grow old, and we all lose our charms in the end!”) and we need to capitalize on what we have while it’s still useful.
But a strong saturnine Venus runs much more than skin deep. An effective saturnine Venus knows just how much effort is required to put on our “girl suits,” as one dear friend with Venus in Aquarius puts it. We know we need to demand respect and recognition for our creations. We know exactly how deep true beauty runs and how far it will and won’t take us. We don’t take it for granted and we don’t over estimate our powers either. We know there’s more to putting on a “girl suit” than applying some lippie. It involves managing people’s egos, fears, concerns, and seating arrangements. Mostly without appearing to have done anything at all.
We know we need to value what we provide because if we don’t no one else will know they need to. So we tell them “to put a ring on it” if they want what we’ve got. Beyonce understands this. After all, she was born with Venus in Libra co-present with Saturn conjunct Jupiter.
If everything I’ve just described sounds to you like it “only applies to women” you’re missing something vital. While it’s true that women are either more natively attuned or socially conditioned to the powers of Venus, it’s not true that men don’t feel her affects or the need for them. James Brown, who penned the soulful It’s a Man’s World, was born with Venus in Taurus square to Saturn in Aquarius. He understood perfectly that his “man’s world” needed something of the feminine to it.
Bringing it into the current context, did you know that there is a rash of suicides amongst our beloved American heroes, the men who play pro-football? Brian Phillips hits the nail on the head when he analyzes this phenomena and asks the important question, “What the hell are you a warrior for?”
He is rightly demanding that as men his sex and gender take responsibility for the massive imbalance and tragedy that an overactive martial culture is spawning. He recognizes that without some sense of unity, of love for one another, that any pretense of “being a man” is just that. Pretense.
So, to sum up, the true value of Venus in Capricorn is that she knows her true value and that value isn’t limited to financial equity. At her best, a saturnine Venus demands R E S P E C T for her worth because she knows she deserves it. (And why yes, as the fates would have it, Aretha Franklin does have Venus and Saturn contacts. Not only are they square but they are in mutual reception!)
So the take away this week is it is time to either demand or give some respect in some area of your life where it may be lacking. Don’t be ashamed or shy about it either. Let love in, release it and honor everything that it takes to do so. Don’t let anyone dismiss it or tell you you’re imagining things, being too sensitive, or not sensitive enough.
Sometimes Venus is a diva. Sometimes she has to be.
Bella in the forest
I watched the final movie in the Twilight saga the other night. DON’T JUDGE ME! No, it’s ok, you can judge me, I know how everyone feels about it. It’s not like I can’t see how awful it all is and why it’s so upsetting (though frankly I don’t think the films get enough credit for how entertaining they are in their badness) but I really do enjoy the storyline, and even worse (apparently) I actually like Bella.
I’ve discovered this is an incredibly unpopular position to take, but it’s not the first time I’ve been fascinated by a woman that is universally hated. It’s actually why I read the books in the first place. Everyone was talking about it so I picked the first book up just to to see why everyone was so furious with her. I kept waiting for the shoe to drop and to find myself hating her too, but it never happened. In fact, with every page I turned I liked Bella more.
She’s described as narcissistic, but a lot of people her age are, I certainly was. I’m inclined to cut her some slack for that. She’s also described as weak and without personality, but that I can’t see. I understand why people do, of course. After all, Bella loves a man who is either stalking her or rejecting and cold. She identifies herself through the experience of loving him so profoundly that she cannot imagine living without him. Literally, she actually attempts to kill herself when he leaves her.
Don’t mistake me, I understand perfectly why this is a dangerous story to instill in a generation of girlish hearts. After all, while those girls are indoctrinating themselves in the myth of sacrificing everything for True Love their boyish peers are learning about girls and how to treat them from internet porn. We’re raising our girls to sacrifice themselves for boys who are being raised to think of girls as play toys. Yeah, it’s a perfect storm. No mistake about it.
Besides, the greatest supernatural twist of the story is that two people who hate themselves somehow manage to fall in love with one another. That’s the most unrealistic thing about it, if you ask me. That NEVER works in real life. I should know, I’ve tried enough times.
Bella’s chance to glitter
But none of that seems to tarnish the shiny bright thing I like about the story. Like legions of young girls (and their mamas!) I’m drawn to the story not because of Bella’s many sacrifices, but because of her victories. I don’t see Bella as weak, because Bella knows what she wants. She is single-minded in the pursuit of it, and Bella wins her quest. She gets her guy and soothes the savage beast. Love is revealed as transformative, and more importantly, redemptive. Through her love Edward is relieved of his self-loathing and anger and released into a profound sense of purpose. Through his love for her Bella learns to love herself, she becomes confident and strong. She becomes resplendent.
Twilight is obviously a modern reworking of Beauty and the Beast and I don’t think you can seriously look at this story and its popularity without asking yourself why we need to tell this tale and why we need to tell it now. I think it’s because Beauty (Venus) really does have the power to soothe what is savage and torn (Mars). Venus heals, reveals, honors, and raises up. Venus reconciles, she unifies. She takes what is broken and she makes it whole. She shields us from pain and gives us something to fight for (Mars again). We would be lost without her.
But in our modern world, those qualities are not celebrated or honored. Instead we equate them liberally with womanhood and mothering. We hold them in contempt and push them into the corner only to be brought out as prizes to be offered up to action heroes and villains alike. We don’t protect Venus, we don’t fight for her. We abuse her, we ridicule her, we tell her we’ll only like her if she wears make-up – but not too much! If she wears too much we call her a slut.
And it’s not like Mars has it so great. Mars is equated primarily with revenge, war and killing. From Rambo to the most recent Die Hard movie we’ve staked our claim on how Mars is supposed to behave and look like. The functions of Mars, to sever and separate, and to act on what is desired, have been perverted into increasingly grotesque caricatures. We demand that our men be warriors first, and we don’t even really care what they’re fighting for, just so long as they fight. Our modern day Mars truly is a beast.
all that glitters
Is it any wonder then that Bella is the spokesperson for Venus in our time? The true horror of Twilight doesn’t have anything to do with vampires or werewolves. The horror is that we live in a time where our experience of beauty (Venus) is so narrowly defined that we need to freeze a woman at 18 in order for her to be pretty. The true horror of Twilight is that the love story (Venus) that defines this generation can only be told by a woman who hates herself and loves someone who hates himself too. The true horror of Twilight is that love can only be redemptive, not reflexive and that it takes a woman with supernatural strength to experience or express it.
The true horror of Venus is that in this day and age it takes a horror story to tell her story.
Demon Will gives good side-eye
Today’s post is brought to you by, you guessed it, The Good Wife. What did you think was going to happen? It’s Monday!! It aired last night! So, despite the fact that pretty much no one read my last post about it I’m going to write another one! That’s what a Pluto transit will do to you, (it’s transiting my Sun right now) it renders you obsessive and self serving.
Speaking of which, can we talk about what an enormously entertaining A-hole Will Gardner has become??! SO awesome. So hot. So glad I don’t know anyone like him in real life. Here he is above giving Diane the side-eye after she had the temerity to tell him not to let Alicia “get in his head.”
His response? ”No. (BEAT) That’s exactly where I want her.”
For realz, guys. This guy is the POSTER child for Venus/Pluto dramarama. I love how unrepentant he is, how full of life and zest and joy. The intense Revenge Flirting with Alicia he enjoyed when she called a disciplinary hearing against him isn’t nearly enough to satisfy his insatiable lust. So naturally he’s picked up some random CRAZY girl in a bar (oh man, I can’t wait for THAT time bomb to go off!) and he’s having totally hot sex with her ALL THE TIME. In FRONT of people. He’s shameless, basically just riding one wave after another of Revenge, Lust and Greed. He’s totally enjoying this transit of Pluto to his Venus. Dirty bird.
He should be more careful. A Pluto transit is something to treat with respect, there’s a reason it elicits warnings from astrologers. Not everyone enjoys the experience. For instance, the mastermind behind Girls Gone Wild, and that poor idiot girl who dressed as a Boston Bomber victim for Halloween both have Venus in Aries getting hit by a conjunction to Uranus squaring Pluto. To be fair, it’s probably the Uranus hitting their Aries Venuses that is causing the worst of the trauma. Aries demands independence and autonomy anyways, it’s not an easy placement for Venus, which craves connection and unity. With Uranus there, the planet that demands freedom at all costs, and Pluto squaring Uranus (a square indicates conflict with external circumstances) it’s pretty much a recipe for some profound earth shaking.
Will’s Power Pose
Fortunately for my Sunday nights I don’t think Will is going to be more careful. I think he’s going to be exactly NOT careful. He’s been sitting on this animosity and aggression for a very long time, playing nice, being honorable, doing the right things. And now he’s feeling vindicated, he’s feeling like he doesn’t have to behave anymore, as if in betraying him, Alicia gave him permission to be as evil as he’s always wanted to be.
Turns out that’s pretty evil. But with Pluto in Capricorn on his side (Darth Vadar anyone?) he might – just might – come out ahead. Of course, it would be a mistake to count Alicia out. That one is sly, deep, and complicated. Smart and resourceful, sure, but more than that, she’s emotional. She’s passionate and intense and frankly a little bit nuts. She almost always zigs when you think she’s going to zag. I smell Scorpio. She’s more than a match for Will, which is exactly why he’s having so much fun. Venus and Pluto combinations need a fight to really get excited. It’s as if the fight is foreplay for them. I predict that the cliffhanger at the end of this season will include those two having some seriously upsetting Revenge Sex.
Will it result in Will assuming the universal pose of victory, as he did at the close of last night’s episode? Who knows? That’s for laters. Right now it’s Alicia: One, Will: One. The ball is in your court, Alicia…
OMG did you guys watch The Good Wife last night? My heart! People in suits have never been this interesting! The show went from being a good show to a profoundly great show in a single hour.
And the whole time I was watching it all I could think was how much money I’d be willing to bet that Will’s Venus is at ten degrees Capricorn. Yeah, yeah, he’s fictional, whatever. So one of the writers has a Venus at ten degrees Cap. The whole hour was basically a televised Greek drama depicting the current Uranus/Pluto square. Uranus wants freedom at all costs and Pluto wants power and control.
Astrologers have been looking to this square for a couple years now, since it has been seen as a harbinger of a particular sort of upheaval and strife politically and culturally. To put it in perspective, the last time we had a hard contact between the two planets was in the sixties and before that during the Depression. Revolution, people, that’s what it’s all about. This time around the concern is that Uranus and Pluto are in cardinal signs and Pluto, in particular, is in Capricorn, which values tradition, rules for rules sake, and stern authority. You can probably see how astrologers are quick to attribute our current polarized political climate on these two heavenly bodies.
And there’s been a slew of politically themed tv dramas coming out lately, from House of Cards to Scandal that amp up the general distrust of political figures (Uranus in Aries) whilst simultaneously glamorizing them (Pluto in Capricorn). Scintillating stuff.
But for my money the juice is in the personal. If you’ve got these planets hitting your own chart hard right now than watching The Good Wife may be a pretty good remedial measure for you. Hate your boss? Your partner? Your co-workers? Feeling a revolution burning inside you? Let The Good Wife live it out for you, seriously, the fall out on that show this season is going to be phenomenal. RIVETING. Great for television, lousy for your life. Let these characters take the hit for you, they’re about to makes themselves utterly miserable.
Everyone was awesome and I have a feeling I’ll be talking about it more as we go, but last night was Will’s night. Up till now he’s been so sympathetic and great, really understanding and such a good guy. But last night he got betrayed but good. And worse, it wasn’t the first time it’s happened to him recently. When Diane betrayed him a couple episodes ago he showed his teeth for the first time, but last night was the real game changer.
The show in general has a really Plutonic feel to it, but last nights show was all Pluto all the time, and Will and his relationships with women (Venus) was the locus for most of it. I said before that his character had Venus at ten degrees Capricorn, but only because that’s where Pluto is right now. Of course when I looked up Josh Charles’ birthday (the actor who plays Will) it turns out that he’s got Venus conjunct Pluto natally, so he was pretty much born to play this guy. At the end of last nights episode when Will says he’s going to win, and he’s going to take them all down, I believed him. This is going to be a fight to the death in true plutonic fashion.
Get your popcorn and strap yourselves in, my little Milk Duds, it’s gonna be a bumpy season.