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Emergence: The other side of Venus Retrograde

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I know, I know, Facebook placards, RIGHT?!  But I couldn’t help myself, I had to do it, I looked over and reached for the book nearest me, which happened to be Lee Lehman’s very excellent Book of Rulerships (a book detailing which planets have been known to rule which experiences since Ptolemy).  On the inside of my copy Lee has inscribed “Wonder – Best, best wishes!” but I can’t imagine this is what she meant, since when I turned to page 45 this is what greeted my eyes:

Bitter Venus

HAHAHAHA I know, serves me right.  DUH.  But though this spoke volumes to me, it’s not technically a paragraph, so I felt justified in turning to the next closest book to me, which happened to be Arielle Guttman’s Venus Star Rising.  Surely a book dedicated to dear, sweet Venus, the planet in charge of love, would be kinder to me, right?  You might think so, but N O.

Darkside of Venus

Can you read that?  Here, let me spell it out for you: “The only demonic implication of the Venus Star is that when what it represents – light and love – becomes blocked or destroyed by people, its dark side, which is fear, emerges.  It is, after all, people’s fears that have created demons.”

I suppose it’s a good sign that I busted up laughing over this.  And not hysterical crying-on-the-inside laughing, but genuine good old belly laughing.  You see, I can own that it’s true.  This IS my love life.  This is exactly what I’ve created for myself.  Straight up truth is almost always the funniest thing there is.

But if I’d tried this experiment two years ago and got the same results it wouldn’t have made me laugh.  I would have been sick to my stomach over it.  The difference is that two years ago I couldn’t own the fact that I’ve created this, I was still somehow looking to foist it off on my chart, on the Universe, on my ex, on anyone and anything but myself.

The last few months have been hard, I cannot tell a lie.  This Venus retrograde started out badly for me, and only got worse as it went on.  But we’re on the other side of it now, can you feel it?  I can.  Adam Gainsburg calls this part of the retrograde period Emergence, because Venus is growing brighter and brighter in the morning sky, having just emerged from a period of invisibility as her orbit took her between the earth and the sun.

And I can feel something’s shifted.  I’m still mulling over the epiphanies and revelations and they’ve not worked their way yet into my corpuscles or bones, but I can see it’s time for some changes around here.  I can’t stay in my 12th house forever, just because my Venus is trapped there.  I AM NOT MY VENUS, DAMMIT.

Maybe Venus isn’t hitting you quite so hard as it is me, but I’d be willing to bet there’s some place in your life where you’ve been dealing with some latent pain and I’m telling you, it’s time to let it go, my friend.  Just let it go.  You don’t need it.

Release!  Shine bright, my Little Morning Stars, it’s time to come out!

Wonderful World Compendium: Venus Retrograde in Capricorn

Venus Retrograde

Whoa boy. Where do I start with this one? Oh! How about here? OMG YOU GUYS I HAVE BED BUGS!!!!!!!! ::buries head under covers in shame, remembers who’s under there with her and leaps out of the window instead:: ARRRGHHHH!!! You guys, I HAVE COOTIES!!!

Now, you may be asking yourself why is she telling me this? And, can I get cooties through the internet? Or possibly what does this have to do with Venus Retrograde? Glad you asked, my Little Buggy Vermin, because:

A.) this is totally a teachable moment, I HAVE to tell you!

B.) No

C.) This has to do with Venus Retrograde because Venus entered Capricorn on Tuesday, November 5th and is currently at 4 degrees approaching a conjunction with my natal Venus at 5 degrees on her way to a retrograde cycle at the end of December. In my chart Venus is in the 12th house, which traditionally is a classic association with, get this, BED PLEASURES.

Now, I’m not saying that everyone with Venus in the 12th in Capricorn should be expecting to get COOTIES (don’t be jealous) this retrograde cycle, but I do find it worth remarking that this cycle, which coincides with the Uranus / Pluto square firing away at my Sun (which rules my 7th House of Partnership) should kick off with such a fierce insult as to how I’ve been managing (or mismanaging) my Venus in the 12th (bed pleasures). If you’ve been paying attention then you know that I’ve been single for some time now, which suits ME just fine, but I’m starting to think that maybe my Venus has a problem with it.

Since retrogrades indicate a perversion and/or reconsideration of the general significations of a planet and since Venus is now going to be in Capricorn UNTIL MARCH, yo, and hitting up on my Sun, the aforementioned ruler of the 7th House of Partnership in my chart, I’m a little concerned this may just be her first warning shot across my bow.

Now, if you ask me she could have picked a better way of telling me she wants some sugar than giving me COOTIES, since this is HARDLY a selling point if you want to snag some hottie at a bar – I can hear myself now, “My, what gorgeous, plump skin you have! I have some little friends that would just LOVE to suck your blood!” But who am I to say? Venus, she works in mysterious ways…

Which brings me to my point. Venus is usually considered a sweet and loving planet, ruling sugar and beauty, and just generally loads of congenial, sociable things. But I’ve got a pro-tip here for you: Don’t piss her off!! She’s just as much a stickler for sacrifices as any other planet.

So heads up, Buttercups! Wherever Capricorn falls in your chart just know that she’s going to be throwing her weight in on the current Pluto/Uranus square (shortly to be joined by an opposition from Jupiter) so this retrograde cycle around I’m afraid she means BIZNIZ. Do NOT be messing about with her, let my example serve as a warning to us all! She’s in Capricorn now, so follow the fucking rules of etiquette. BE CIVIL. This is no time to be an asshole, please do NOT look to Will Gardner for inspiration. If you have bed bugs, even metaphoric ones, get rid of them. Do the honorable thing, clean up your messes thoroughly and communicate with anyone you may have contaminated.

Dates to consider: Venus hits up on the Uranus/Pluto square this week on November 14th and the 15th respectively. She goes retrograde at 29 degrees Capricorn on December 20th, and direct at 14 degrees on February 1st.

Usually in my Compendiums I have more links for you, but I couldn’t find that many cool articles on this Venus Retrograde. If you’ve come across one I missed please leave it in the comments and I’ll keep this list updated.

In the meantime, for more on Venus in Capricorn and how to show her your allegiance, please check out what Barry Perlman has to say about her over on Astrobarry. I love what he says about the benefits of a rule following Venus! Check it out, as always, some very sage advice.)

Julie Demboski has a beautiful image to accompany this transit and some words of wisdom for those of you who don’t naturally find the connections between Love and Beauty and Rules.

Finally, in case you’ve got a bad case of Venus in Capricorn natally, like myself, and this transit is hitting you somewhere you’d rather it didn’t, like it is with me, than I’ve got some cold comfort for you in the shape of your face. The Oxford Astrologer has compiled a list of famous women and men with Venus in Capricorn. She points out that since Capricorn is ruled by Saturn and Saturn rules bones, Venus in Capricorn (and Aquarius!) lends itself passingly well to decent cheekbones. Sadly there’s not a lot of POC in the list, but there are a ton of cheekbones.

So, I will take heart and hope that my cheekbones cancel out my cooties and that Venus will be nice to me now that I’m taking her so seriously. Now, please forgive me, but I can’t write anymore. I have to go burn my apartment Down. To. The. Ground.

Twilight & the Horror of Venus

I watched the final movie in the Twilight saga the other night.  DON’T JUDGE ME!  No, it’s ok, you can judge me, I know how everyone feels about it.  It’s not like I can’t see how awful it all is and why it’s so upsetting (though frankly I don’t think the films get enough credit for how entertaining they are in their badness) but I really do enjoy the storyline, and even worse (apparently) I actually like Bella.

I’ve discovered this is an incredibly unpopular position to take, but it’s not the first time I’ve been fascinated by a woman that is universally hated.  It’s actually why I read the books in the first place.  Everyone was talking about it so I picked the first book up just to to see why everyone was so furious with her.  I kept waiting for the shoe to drop and to find myself hating her too, but it never happened.  In fact, with every page I turned I liked Bella more.

She’s described as narcissistic, but a lot of people her age are, I certainly was.  I’m inclined to cut her some slack for that.  She’s also described as weak and without personality, but that I can’t see.  I understand why people do, of course.  After all, Bella loves a man who is either stalking her or rejecting and cold.  She identifies herself through the experience of loving him so profoundly that she cannot imagine living without him.  Literally, she actually attempts to kill herself when he leaves her.

Don’t mistake me, I understand perfectly why this is a dangerous story to instill in a generation of girlish hearts.  After all, while those girls are indoctrinating themselves in the myth of sacrificing everything for True Love their boyish peers are learning about girls and how to treat them from internet porn.  We’re raising our girls to sacrifice themselves for boys who are being raised to think of girls as play toys.  Yeah, it’s a perfect storm.  No mistake about it.

Besides, the greatest supernatural twist of the story is that two people who hate themselves somehow manage to fall in love with one another.  That’s the most unrealistic thing about it, if you ask me.  That NEVER works in real life.  I should know, I’ve tried enough times.

But none of that seems to tarnish the shiny bright thing I like about the story.  Like legions of young girls (and their mamas!) I’m drawn to the story not because of Bella’s many sacrifices, but because of her victories.  I don’t see Bella as weak, because Bella knows what she wants.  She is single-minded in the pursuit of it, and Bella wins her quest.  She gets her guy and soothes the savage beast.  Love is revealed as transformative, and more importantly, redemptive.  Through her love Edward is relieved of his self-loathing and anger and released into a profound sense of purpose.  Through his love for her Bella learns to love herself, she becomes confident and strong.  She becomes resplendent.

Twilight is obviously a modern reworking of Beauty and the Beast and I don’t think you can seriously look at this story and its popularity without asking yourself why we need to tell this tale and why we need to tell it now.  I think it’s because Beauty (Venus) really does have the power to soothe what is savage and torn (Mars).  Venus heals, reveals, honors, and raises up.  Venus reconciles, she unifies.  She takes what is broken and she makes it whole.  She shields us from pain and gives us something to fight for (Mars again).  We would be lost without her.

But in our modern world, those qualities are not celebrated or honored.  Instead we equate them liberally with womanhood and mothering.  We hold them in contempt and push them into the corner only to be brought out as prizes to be offered up to action heroes and villains alike.  We don’t protect Venus, we don’t fight for her.  We abuse her, we ridicule her, we tell her we’ll only like her if she wears make-up – but not too much!  If she wears too much we call her a slut.

And it’s not like Mars has it so great.  Mars is equated primarily with revenge, war and killing.  From Rambo to the most recent Die Hard movie we’ve staked our claim on how Mars is supposed to behave and look like.  The functions of Mars, to sever and separate, and to act on what is desired, have been perverted into increasingly grotesque caricatures.  We demand that our men be warriors first, and we don’t even really care what they’re fighting for, just so long as they fight.  Our modern day Mars truly is a beast.

Is it any wonder then that Bella is the spokesperson for Venus in our time?  The true horror of Twilight doesn’t have anything to do with vampires or werewolves.  The horror is that we live in a time where our experience of beauty (Venus) is so narrowly defined that we need to freeze a woman at 18 in order for her to be pretty.  The true horror of Twilight is that the love story (Venus) that defines this generation can only be told by a woman who hates herself and loves someone who hates himself too.  The true horror of Twilight is that love can only be redemptive, not reflexive and that it takes a woman with supernatural strength to experience or express it.

The true horror of Venus is that in this day and age it takes a horror story to tell her story.